Rod and I have been together for 10 years. We have two kids. Yet marriage was never on the cards.
Then, after the birth of Isaac last October, we started to talk about it. The children have their dad’s surname and mine was different. It hadn’t mattered before, but now we all wanted to have the same name in our little family. And of course there are many legalities that are so much more simple when you are married.
Neither of us wanted a fuss or a big do, but I did feel that it was important that the occasion was marked in some way and I did want my close family to be with us.
In May we had an appointment at the Town Hall where the registry office is based to have our Notice of Intention to be Married read. Only at this point did we tell my mum and brother that we had decided to get married and that they needed to be free on the First of August.
The next job was getting all our clothes, the wedding rings and flowers organised.
I bought my purple dress from Viyella. I didn’t have anything in mind, I just hoped that I’d know when I found the right dress. I had tried on various dresses in many shops and they were all too short, too high-necked, too cheap- looking or ill-fitting, the wrong colour…argh! Then I went into this shop, picked up a few things to try on and everything fitted, it all felt well made and special and the purple dress was just what I was hoping to find.
My silver shoes came a few weeks later; a bargain in the sale at Debenhams. I just had to wear them in during the week before the wedding by wearing socks with them and doing the ironing in them! My bag was from Next; try finding a silver bag in July! Pretty much impossible!! And my fascinator for my hair from the Clarks outlet shop of all places.
Evie described a very specific dress to us! She wanted a gold dress with big skirt. We spotted her really pretty dress in BHS and it fit the bill for her perfectly. Because she was only 4, I wanted her in sensible shoes or sandals, and when we found her purple, sparkly Clarks Doodles it was meant to be! Her cream socks were more of a challenge to find but Tesco was good for those in the end and I made her hair ribbons myself and plaited the front of her hair to keep it out of her face and put my 20 year old bendy rollers in the back of her hair to make her curls curl the way we wanted them to.
My son was less fussy about his clothes, unfortunately I wasn’t! I wanted him comfy, but in nice things that weren’t a hideous miniature suit or jeans. I struggled! By the end of July, all the shops have the autumn stock in with very few nice shorts left. I wanted a polo shirt for him that was a bit smarter than a round-necked t-shirt and this was hard to track down too. In the end I got his shorts and t-shirt in M&Co, a shop I’d never been in before and I breathed a sigh of relief.
And then to the groom! He got his suit out of the wardrobe…it had gone mouldy! Great! I took it to the dry cleaners and crossed my fingers; it came clean! A new white shirt and silver and purple tie finished off the outfit on the weekend before the wedding in the nick of time.
Our guest list comprised of four adults and our children. There was my mum – Sue, brother – Richard, his girlfriend – Izzy, Rod’s friend – Duane, and of course Evie and Isaac.
I told my closest friends in the week before and they were fairly stunned! We weren’t engaged as such so I suppose it was quite a suprise for them.
Since we weren’t engaged, I didn’t have an engagement ring. I decided that I was going to have diamonds in my wedding ring to make up for this and I did…lots of them!
On the day I had arranged for my mum and brother and his girlfriend to pick up the flowers on the way to our house before we all set off together. At the town hall we attached the mens’ button hole flowers and the ladies’ corsages to our wrists. Evie had a little posy of flowers but the kind florist made her a little bracelet with a purple net flower of her own so she didn’t feel left out.
We went to the lovely room where we were going to get married and the registrar spoke to us both individually and then we were ready to start. There was a bit of confusion with the registrar about where we were supposed to stand and we ended up quite far back from the front, but this meant that our guests could see our faces rather than the backs of our heads and we would have never got this stunning photo of Evie if we had been further forward.
After the ceremony we had photos on the town hall steps before going home for photos in the garden.
My brother was official photographer for us and took some fabulous photos, especially of Evie. These photos are to follow in another blog soon. The photos here were just taken on our phones but there are some really good ones. I love the one above with Evie throwing the confetti.
We went in a taxi to Leeds and had a lovely meal at Browns.
We stayed there a few hours before going to the Slug and Lettuce for a few drinks and then returned home.
The weather was beautiful and we sat in the garden and had fun before eating a curry that I had made the day before.
The whole day was just what we wanted and we enjoyed every minute of it!